Comments on: How to Value Your Self-worth After a Nasty Break-up http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up/ Step By Step Directions and Tutorials on Everything Tue, 15 Mar 2011 06:50:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: gracette http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-890 gracette Thu, 01 Apr 2010 14:24:56 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-890 i really hate breaks up. Because it just doesn't break a heart but the mind as well, you can't help thinking over and over until your eyes get wet with tears at night and soon enough you will realized that the sun is already shining at the window. That's how hard it is. I really can tell because i went through it just last month. But it doesn't matter how long or short time you will feel better or recovered about what happened. It's the everyday hard times that keep you losing weight of not eating and sleeping. The best thing to do is always be with someone or in a group. It can be a family member or friends. This will somehow helps you lessen the moments that you will think of your ex and again, cry. Also, it is advisable that you keep yourself busy with work or hobbies. It's like hitting two birds in one stone. Because you may be able to move on little by little and at the same time making your day productive. And by the time that you found yourself not crying anymore and being ready to see your ex's memorabilia, you can now trash every memorabilia you want. Then say goodbye. i really hate breaks up. Because it just doesn’t break a heart but the mind as well, you can’t help thinking over and over until your eyes get wet with tears at night and soon enough you will realized that the sun is already shining at the window. That’s how hard it is. I really can tell because i went through it just last month. But it doesn’t matter how long or short time you will feel better or recovered about what happened. It’s the everyday hard times that keep you losing weight of not eating and sleeping. The best thing to do is always be with someone or in a group. It can be a family member or friends. This will somehow helps you lessen the moments that you will think of your ex and again, cry. Also, it is advisable that you keep yourself busy with work or hobbies. It’s like hitting two birds in one stone. Because you may be able to move on little by little and at the same time making your day productive. And by the time that you found yourself not crying anymore and being ready to see your ex’s memorabilia, you can now trash every memorabilia you want. Then say goodbye.

]]> By: potrish78 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-812 potrish78 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 15:59:44 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-812 Give yourself sufficient time to express grief. Cry your heart out until you can cry no more. Do this at your own pace. A normal reaction to a painful situation is to shut people out. It is OK to be alone for a while and feel the pain but not for a very long time. Isolation would only do harm than any good. When you can finally say that you’re ready to go through the slow process of moving on, it means that you’re ready to step into the world again. Talk to people, even to strangers, about how you feel and what this situation is doing to you. Talk about this problem over and over again even if you’d sound like a broken record. It is one way of healing your broken heart. Then go on a vacation and try to enjoy the moment. Then develop a new skill. Try to learn martial arts or boxing. In that way, you are punching all those pain away. And before you know it, you’re over him/her already. Give yourself sufficient time to express grief. Cry your heart out until you can cry no more. Do this at your own pace. A normal reaction to a painful situation is to shut people out. It is OK to be alone for a while and feel the pain but not for a very long time. Isolation would only do harm than any good. When you can finally say that you’re ready to go through the slow process of moving on, it means that you’re ready to step into the world again. Talk to people, even to strangers, about how you feel and what this situation is doing to you. Talk about this problem over and over again even if you’d sound like a broken record. It is one way of healing your broken heart. Then go on a vacation and try to enjoy the moment. Then develop a new skill. Try to learn martial arts or boxing. In that way, you are punching all those pain away. And before you know it, you’re over him/her already.

]]> By: showerlist http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-753 showerlist Fri, 19 Mar 2010 12:45:19 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-753 Break ups are never easy, most especially if you've really committed yourself to the relationship. But the best way to go about it is to know that you're not alone and that you have people who love you (like your family and friends) and will always care for you. Just surround yourself with positive energy and supportive people and eventually you will realise that that break up was just another event in your life that will help you grow and mature into a better kind of person. Break ups are never easy, most especially if you’ve really committed yourself to the relationship. But the best way to go about it is to know that you’re not alone and that you have people who love you (like your family and friends) and will always care for you. Just surround yourself with positive energy and supportive people and eventually you will realise that that break up was just another event in your life that will help you grow and mature into a better kind of person.

]]> By: crysh http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-624 crysh Tue, 16 Mar 2010 07:23:07 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-624 The best breakup advice I got is to remove everything that will trigger memories of the relationship. May it be your partner’s gifts to you, your vacation photos together, your computer screensaver, your partner’s phone number or going to your favorite spot. Free yourself from all things that will connect you to him. Ask your friends and family to help you out in moving on by not bringing your ex up in any conversation when you are in the room. Give yourself ample time to absorb the hurt and all the emotions before you decide to give other people a chance to enter in your life and love you. The best breakup advice I got is to remove everything that will trigger memories of the relationship. May it be your partner’s gifts to you, your vacation photos together, your computer screensaver, your partner’s phone number or going to your favorite spot. Free yourself from all things that will connect you to him. Ask your friends and family to help you out in moving on by not bringing your ex up in any conversation when you are in the room. Give yourself ample time to absorb the hurt and all the emotions before you decide to give other people a chance to enter in your life and love you.

]]> By: whimsical1207 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-555 whimsical1207 Mon, 15 Mar 2010 07:22:35 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-555 I'm sure we've all had our hearts broken once or twice and at that time it was very devastating. Just last year i experienced a very nasty break up and i thought it was the end of my world. A few days after the break up I cried and cried and blamed myself. After a while I came to realize that crying is not helpful and my loved ones were also suffering because I couldn't get over my grief. When i saw the concern from my friends and family it was only then that It hit me that there are others who love me and care for me. I started to move on by keeping myself busy. I played with my nephew during my free time or spend time reading the books that I love or I just walked my dogs. I never went idle so that I wont think about the person who broke my heart. I also began loving and appreciating myself. Basically, I did things that would keep my mind off from thinking too much of my past relationship and how happy it was. I stopped being regretful and resentful. There is more to life than sorrow and i believe that when a door closes another one opens. So Im sure that at the right time the right one will come into my life. :) I’m sure we’ve all had our hearts broken once or twice and at that time it was very devastating. Just last year i experienced a very nasty break up and i thought it was the end of my world. A few days after the break up I cried and cried and blamed myself. After a while I came to realize that crying is not helpful and my loved ones were also suffering because I couldn’t get over my grief. When i saw the concern from my friends and family it was only then that It hit me that there are others who love me and care for me. I started to move on by keeping myself busy. I played with my nephew during my free time or spend time reading the books that I love or I just walked my dogs. I never went idle so that I wont think about the person who broke my heart. I also began loving and appreciating myself. Basically, I did things that would keep my mind off from thinking too much of my past relationship and how happy it was. I stopped being regretful and resentful. There is more to life than sorrow and i believe that when a door closes another one opens. So Im sure that at the right time the right one will come into my life. :)

]]> By: kixjins http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-452 kixjins Sat, 13 Mar 2010 11:07:46 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-452 Break ups! Ouch! It hurts. For both parties involved they would feel the pain that break up had given them. But it doesn't mean that its the end of the world. Always keep in mind that if you had that painful break up, it's just that you are not meant to be and somebody out there is much better than your ex. The best thing to do is pray that you will overcome that pain you feel as of the moment. Try to keep yourself busy, talk to any member of the family close to you, talk to your friends go out with them once in a while, mingle to different kinds of people. And be open to share your feelings and thoughts. As you go along with these, sooner or later you would just realized that you overcome the pain and everything would just go normal. Break ups! Ouch! It hurts. For both parties involved they would feel the pain that break up had given them. But it doesn’t mean that its the end of the world. Always keep in mind that if you had that painful break up, it’s just that you are not meant to be and somebody out there is much better than your ex. The best thing to do is pray that you will overcome that pain you feel as of the moment. Try to keep yourself busy, talk to any member of the family close to you, talk to your friends go out with them once in a while, mingle to different kinds of people. And be open to share your feelings and thoughts. As you go along with these, sooner or later you would just realized that you overcome the pain and everything would just go normal.

]]> By: Ray http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-400 Ray Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:58:50 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-400 It's always best to keep in mind that thinking of the break-up can only amplify its effects and your heartbreak. So avoid listening to love songs in which would remind you of the past, and surround yourself with people with a positive outlook in life. If things are still too emotional for you to handle, never be afraid to ask for someone's help, whether a friend, a brother/sister, and even your parents could prove to be helpful when dealing with a break-up. Do not go on looking for another partner just yet, though dating is also a common past-time in such predicaments, do not rush yourself into entering another relationship. Most often than not, rebound relationships as they are so often called could prove to be more devastating and more painful, especially to your partner. And I have come to learn though, that chocolate is a a great reliever of heart-ache, so munch away on a pack or two. It’s always best to keep in mind that thinking of the break-up can only amplify its effects and your heartbreak. So avoid listening to love songs in which would remind you of the past, and surround yourself with people with a positive outlook in life. If things are still too emotional for you to handle, never be afraid to ask for someone’s help, whether a friend, a brother/sister, and even your parents could prove to be helpful when dealing with a break-up. Do not go on looking for another partner just yet, though dating is also a common past-time in such predicaments, do not rush yourself into entering another relationship. Most often than not, rebound relationships as they are so often called could prove to be more devastating and more painful, especially to your partner. And I have come to learn though, that chocolate is a a great reliever of heart-ache, so munch away on a pack or two.

]]> By: cebu http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-375 cebu Tue, 09 Mar 2010 12:05:50 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-375 Breaking up really puts all your systems down. But we must look on the brighter side of breaking ups. First, it gives you an opportunity to evaluate your performance or behavior when you are in a relationship. Then it allows you to assess how you deal with your partner, what effort or actions you have given to save it. Lastly, it gives you an ample space to redeem and reconstruct yourself towards the betterment. So at least in your next relationship you will know how to handle each and every situation that may arise as you prepare yourself to all the possibilities. Breaking up really puts all your systems down. But we must look on the brighter side of breaking ups. First, it gives you an opportunity to evaluate your performance or behavior when you are in a relationship. Then it allows you to assess how you deal with your partner, what effort or actions you have given to save it. Lastly, it gives you an ample space to redeem and reconstruct yourself towards the betterment. So at least in your next relationship you will know how to handle each and every situation that may arise as you prepare yourself to all the possibilities.

]]> By: phraensys http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-369 phraensys Tue, 09 Mar 2010 08:46:51 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-369 Well, break-ups are always painful as they say. On the other side of the coin, as how i have gone through it, i made sure i did everything... i begged. i asked for another chance. i called her up her phone. i still want to say that i really humbled myself down. i did my best because i know at the end of the road there will always be that possibility to ask one's self "what if i did this or that...?" so when it was all over, it was not so painful for my part - because i did everything i could to save the relationship, and i was not haunted by that "what if..." question. That's my experience. What works for me, may not work for the others. Well, break-ups are always painful as they say.

On the other side of the coin, as how i have gone through it, i made sure i did everything… i begged. i asked for another chance. i called her up her phone. i still want to say that i really humbled myself down. i did my best because i know at the end of the road there will always be that possibility to ask one’s self “what if i did this or that…?”

so when it was all over, it was not so painful for my part – because i did everything i could to save the relationship, and i was not haunted by that “what if…” question.

That’s my experience. What works for me, may not work for the others.

]]> By: only4jade19 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-value-your-self-worth-after-a-nasty-break-up//comment-page-1#comment-342 only4jade19 Sun, 07 Mar 2010 10:49:15 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=323#comment-342 Breaking up is no fun at all. It sucks really, but you just have to get over it. I mean its not yet the end of the world. It is important to see the end of a relationship is a beginning of a new chapter of your life. Their is more to life than wasting your tears crying over a stupid person who does not want you back. Just be nice to yourself. It is not you alone who experience it. Let yourself mourn the loss, and remember that you don't have to be perfect all of the time—or any of the time. Nobody is! Breaking up is no fun at all. It sucks really, but you just have to get over it. I mean its not yet the end of the world. It is important to see the end of a relationship is a beginning of a new chapter of your life. Their is more to life than wasting your tears crying over a stupid person who does not want you back. Just be nice to yourself. It is not you alone who experience it. Let yourself mourn the loss, and remember that you don’t have to be perfect all of the time—or any of the time. Nobody is!

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