Comments on: How to Know If You Have Self-Esteem Issues In your Personal Relationships http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships/ Step By Step Directions and Tutorials on Everything Tue, 15 Mar 2011 06:50:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Sofia Cope http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships//comment-page-1#comment-917 Sofia Cope Sun, 04 Apr 2010 03:41:25 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=315#comment-917 Remember that self-esteem is earned and should be worked hard for. Having low self-esteem will not get you anywhere. I used to downplay myself a lot when I had this relationship back in college but because I realized that it wasn't making me a better person and it was affecting the relationship already, I knew I had to stop. How did I do it? Well, it wasn't easy but it was worth all the effort and desire to change. I started by talking to people and making them share about their failures in life and how they overcome it. Some friends would recommend informative books that truly helped me find the confidence I've been searching for. One very important lesson I have extracted from the books I've read is that if you can't love yourself, it will be difficult for you to love anyone. Remember that self-esteem is earned and should be worked hard for. Having low self-esteem will not get you anywhere. I used to downplay myself a lot when I had this relationship back in college but because I realized that it wasn’t making me a better person and it was affecting the relationship already, I knew I had to stop. How did I do it? Well, it wasn’t easy but it was worth all the effort and desire to change. I started by talking to people and making them share about their failures in life and how they overcome it. Some friends would recommend informative books that truly helped me find the confidence I’ve been searching for. One very important lesson I have extracted from the books I’ve read is that if you can’t love yourself, it will be difficult for you to love anyone.

]]> By: gracette http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships//comment-page-1#comment-904 gracette Fri, 02 Apr 2010 05:23:52 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=315#comment-904 Sometimes, things won't happen according to our plan. But it doesn't mean that we have to stick with it for a long time and regrets will continue to control us. If we let ourselves to regret everything wrong that happened in the past, one of the consequences is that we may fail our relationship with others. If things won't work the way we wanted it, then we should learn from it so we will know what to do next time. We can't do anything about the past but we can do the best in the present. Don't let yourself down. Don't blame yourself too much. Don't think the you are the worse person. You can do better, just try harder. And also, Don't rely on taking too much food, it might get you fat. And if you look at the mirror and see yourself fat, it might worsen your low self-esteem. Too much alcohol, cigars and drugs are very bad ideas. Sometimes, things won’t happen according to our plan. But it doesn’t mean that we have to stick with it for a long time and regrets will continue to control us. If we let ourselves to regret everything wrong that happened in the past, one of the consequences is that we may fail our relationship with others. If things won’t work the way we wanted it, then we should learn from it so we will know what to do next time. We can’t do anything about the past but we can do the best in the present. Don’t let yourself down. Don’t blame yourself too much. Don’t think the you are the worse person. You can do better, just try harder. And also, Don’t rely on taking too much food, it might get you fat. And if you look at the mirror and see yourself fat, it might worsen your low self-esteem. Too much alcohol, cigars and drugs are very bad ideas.

]]> By: potrish78 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships//comment-page-1#comment-844 potrish78 Tue, 23 Mar 2010 10:42:19 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=315#comment-844 If you commit suicide every time you get heartbreak or if suicide is the only reason you think about as something to keep your lover from leaving you, is a major indication that you have self esteem issues. If people praise you or say that you are beautiful and you reply with “No, I’m not. You’re just saying that because you are my friend” Then I say you really have issues. Worse, if it is your lover who is praising you and you disagree instead of just saying “Thank you!” People don’t normally just say these things to flatter someone especially if these people are very close to you. If you repeatedly hear those praises then it must be really true. Remember that beauty is only skin deep. What people see in you probably is not only the physical attributes but your heart as well. So stop pulling yourself down. Be proud of who or what you really are. If you commit suicide every time you get heartbreak or if suicide is the only reason you think about as something to keep your lover from leaving you, is a major indication that you have self esteem issues. If people praise you or say that you are beautiful and you reply with “No, I’m not. You’re just saying that because you are my friend” Then I say you really have issues. Worse, if it is your lover who is praising you and you disagree instead of just saying “Thank you!” People don’t normally just say these things to flatter someone especially if these people are very close to you. If you repeatedly hear those praises then it must be really true.

Remember that beauty is only skin deep. What people see in you probably is not only the physical attributes but your heart as well. So stop pulling yourself down. Be proud of who or what you really are.

]]> By: Erwin Jayoma http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships//comment-page-1#comment-646 Erwin Jayoma Wed, 17 Mar 2010 05:41:09 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=315#comment-646 As what the Word of God says, I have not given you the spirit of fear but of power love and sound mind. People who loss their personal confidence and trust are the people who also do not trust in God. Inferiority and all forms of negative attitudes are not of God, they are from the enemy which is the devil. Satan always put discouragement in every hearts because he wants to destroy you and let you down and be separated from the will of God. The devil comes to destroy, kill and steal the good things in you but God comes just to give you life and have it more abundantly. Therefore, you should trust God as your maker. He has put a good things in you. You should not be discouraged or dismayed. You are good and special and one of a kind. Trust your Maker and trust yourself As what the Word of God says, I have not given you the spirit of fear but of power love and sound mind. People who loss their personal confidence and trust are the people who also do not trust in God. Inferiority and all forms of negative attitudes are not of God, they are from the enemy which is the devil. Satan always put discouragement in every hearts because he wants to destroy you and let you down and be separated from the will of God. The devil comes to destroy, kill and steal the good things in you but God comes just to give you life and have it more abundantly. Therefore, you should trust God as your maker. He has put a good things in you. You should not be discouraged or dismayed. You are good and special and one of a kind. Trust your Maker and trust yourself

]]> By: crysh http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships//comment-page-1#comment-627 crysh Tue, 16 Mar 2010 07:43:47 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=315#comment-627 One way to know for sure that you have self-esteem issues is if you tend to sabotage yourself. You may be frightened of succeeding or failing or sometimes both. You may be hyped to do one thing and stop doing it all of a sudden out of fear of the outcome. That will be the time to seek professional help. The best you can do is be aware of the signs of a problem before it gets difficult for you and your family to resolve. One way to know for sure that you have self-esteem issues is if you tend to sabotage yourself. You may be frightened of succeeding or failing or sometimes both. You may be hyped to do one thing and stop doing it all of a sudden out of fear of the outcome. That will be the time to seek professional help. The best you can do is be aware of the signs of a problem before it gets difficult for you and your family to resolve.

]]> By: Ray http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/society/self-esteem-issues/how-to-know-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues-in-your-personal-relationships//comment-page-1#comment-402 Ray Fri, 12 Mar 2010 04:09:54 +0000 http://www.stepbystepdirections.com/?p=315#comment-402 One thing to keep in mind, "life is about making choices and never looking back". Regret is one thing that Mr. Success shuns upon, so remove that from your system. Accept yourself for who you are, and do not make yourself a social robot that was built to live up to the expectations of everyone. So what if you cannot live up to their expectations? Do not be afraid to speak up, remember that you are at stake here, make them realize that you are just a Human that is prone to mistakes and is far from being perfect. Do not wish that you can go back in time and start all over again, remember that a great sculptor does not start from the beginning when his sculpture is undesirable, rather, he puts on more clay and molds it into the desired shape. One thing to keep in mind, “life is about making choices and never looking back”. Regret is one thing that Mr. Success shuns upon, so remove that from your system. Accept yourself for who you are, and do not make yourself a social robot that was built to live up to the expectations of everyone. So what if you cannot live up to their expectations? Do not be afraid to speak up, remember that you are at stake here, make them realize that you are just a Human that is prone to mistakes and is far from being perfect. Do not wish that you can go back in time and start all over again, remember that a great sculptor does not start from the beginning when his sculpture is undesirable, rather, he puts on more clay and molds it into the desired shape.

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