People with self-esteem issues may find it hard to establish or maintain relationships with other individuals because they themselves can’t establish a healthy relationship with themselves.  Though you say it’s only your problem and yours alone, those who care about you cannot help but be affected by your inner struggles with yourself.  Having someone to talk to or share your thoughts with can help, but if you still have a problem with how you feel about yourself, soon you’ll be losing those whom you value most.  Here is a guide on how to determine if you are seriously losing confidence in yourself.

Step #1:  Be more aware if you continually put yourself down.

If you’re the type to blush over an achievement and say things like “I don’t deserve it” or “It’s just a lucky break, I always fare worse”, then you’re on the clear path to the destruction not only of your self-esteem, but also your relationship with other people.  The same goes for people with body issues, who hide and often berate themselves for not looking as perfect as some other people.  Though other people can offer you the assurance and the ego boost that you are good, smart, and fine the way you are, pretty soon they’ll
just get up and leave you if you continue downplaying yourself.

Step #2:  Determine if you keep on banging your head over regrets.

Reminiscing and remembering some events in your past occasionally is fine because sometimes, it pays to look back from where you came from.  However, if a sigh continually emanates from your lips followed by “I remember when” or “I wish I didn’t” phrases very often, then you’ve got some self-image issues.  Despairing continuously over the past won’t let you move forward.  Live in the present and make the most of the relationships
you have so you can bury your past and forget it.

Step #3:  Take note of any signs of obsession with food, drugs, or emotions.

If nothing else calms your nerves or gives you the drive such as chocolate, drugs, or even a feeling of anger, you may have dependency issues.  Relying on these substances or emotions to make you feel your worth is not healthy and can do even more harm to your health and to those around you.

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