Give Up Perfectionism and Live a Better Life

Are you making yourself miserable because of your perfectionism? If so, would you like to be able to let it go and have a healthier, slightly less perfect life? Perfectionism is a set of unrealistic expectations that cause us to always feel that we have fallen short. As such, perfectionists never get to feel true pride in their accomplishments (my sister who is learning to become an event planner is never satisfied with her work). If you think you may be a perfectionist, read on to find out more.

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How to Tell if You’re a Perfectionist

  • Do you always look at your accomplishments and feel that you could have done much better?
  • Do you replay your mistakes and shortcomings over and over in your head?
  • Do you have to finish everything immediately, regardless of the effort or cost?
  • Are you a neat freak?

If you can relate to one or more of the above, you are a perfectionist and are likely causing harm to your own life due to your unrealistic expectations. If so, now is the time to make a positive change and to start living a more relaxed, fulfilling life.

How Does Perfectionism Harm You?

While you may feel that your perfectionism helps you to create a more perfect, ordered life, it can be extremely damaging. By being too much of a perfectionist, you will create a number of issues in your life that will keep you from ever being truly happy. Among other things, perfectionism can cause you to have low self-esteem, can harm your relationships with others, and can create a great deal of stress in your life.

Perfectionism robs you of personal satisfaction because you feel that everything you do must be perfect. In truth, perfection doesn’t exist. It will also prevent you from feeling good about yourself because you are imperfect but you only see perfection as being worthwhile. In addition, being a perfectionist can sabotage all of your relationships with others. The people you love will be sick of your unrealistic expectations and criticism. In addition, your lack of internal happiness and self-esteem will create a host of communication problems that will quickly undermine even the best relationships.

Overcoming Perfectionism

The best way to overcome perfectionism is to start appreciating things for what they are. See the flaws in things as adding character instead of destroying worth. Instead of focusing on the faults of others, focus on what you love about them. Set realistic expectations for yourself and be proud when you achieve them. Finally, realize and accept that your perception of perfection may not be the same as everyone else’s. It is simply your opinion and is not set in stone. The sooner you learn to accept things as they are and to find the joy and beauty in your life, the better you will feel about yourself and the happier you will be. Perfectionism is a waste of your time and energy and does nothing but set you up for failure and disappointment. Don’t you deserve better than that?

Penny G. is a writer that loves to write on anything.

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